"Menopause: The comedy nobody asked for but everyone gets”

Not the End, Just a Pause

Menopause often gets described as a tragedy: the “end of womanhood,” a hormonal disaster movie featuring night sweats, migraines and mood swings.

But from a BioDecoding perspective, it’s not an ending at all. It’s a pause – your body putting its hand up in the middle of the meeting and saying:

“Excuse me, we’ve finished the fertility chapter. Now, what about you?”

This shift is biological, yes. Hormones fall, cycles stop. But the way women actually experience menopause depends on far more than chemistry.

It’s also shaped by emotions, diet, lifestyle – and crucially, by what their culture tells them about ageing and value.

Biology as a Messenger

In BioDecoding we don’t treat symptoms as random. They’re messengers. Each one has a story to tell:

• Hot flushes – those sudden inner volcanoes often reflect unspoken anger, unexpressed passion, or fear of no longer being desired.

• Night sweats – the body’s way of “crying out” the tears you never shed.

• Migraines – the stubborn head demanding: “Stop controlling everything. Loosen your grip. Float for once.”

• Vaginal dryness – the body closing its doors when intimacy feels unsafe, or when fear of rejection looms larger than desire.

The biology is blunt. If emotions aren’t expressed, the body takes the microphone.

Why Culture Matters

Biology is universal, but how women live through it isn’t. Culture writes the script.

• In Japan, menopause is called konenki – renewal, season, energy. Older women are respected. Diets rich in soy and fish provide natural phytoestrogens and omega-3s, softening the hormonal drop. Hot flushes are rare; some women even feel chilled. It’s less a “decline” and more a new chapter.

• In India, menopause often means liberation. After years of childbearing and social restrictions, women gain freedoms – no more veils, more laughter, even a glass of homemade wine with friends. Symptoms exist, yes, but the reward is respect and autonomy.

• In Africa, many languages don’t even have a word for menopause. It’s simply “the time the periods stop.” For many, that’s a relief. No bleeding, no taboos. Symptoms like joint pains or sweats are accepted as part of life, not a crisis.

• On the Western stage, things look very different. Menopause is often framed as decline. Wrinkles are crimes, youth is currency, and silence is the default. Here, 75–80% of women report hot flushes, insomnia and mood swings. Stressful lifestyles, processed food, alcohol – they all amplify symptoms. But more powerful than any diet is the story: “Ageing makes you less valuable.”

The Western Cult of Youth: When Ageing Becomes a Disease

In the West, ageing is treated less like a natural process and more like a contagious illness. Wrinkles must be erased, grey hair hidden, and menopause? Better not mention it at all – as if silence could trick biology.

This obsession with youth creates a painful paradox. Women are not only navigating hormonal changes; they’re also battling society’s whisper: “You matter only while you’re young.” No wonder hot flushes feel like shame, night sweats like failure, and ageing like exile.

From a BioDecoding view, that rejection is crucial. The body wants to move forward, to transform, but the psyche resists – terrified of losing love, status or desirability. That inner tug-of-war fuels symptoms, making them louder and harsher.

Contrast this with Japan’s konenki (renewal), India’s liberation, or African grandmothers becoming community elders. In cultures where ageing is honoured, biology speaks softer. In the West, drowned in anti-ageing adverts, the body has to shout.

The Emotional Overlay

Beyond hormones and culture lies the personal emotional map. Menopause often stirs:

• Grief – for lost youth, missed chances, or a fading sense of attractiveness.

• Regret – about motherhood (too many children, or none at all), careers, or relationships.

• Fear of invisibility – the sense of being overlooked in a culture obsessed with fresh faces.

If these feelings are denied, they seep into biology. Heat rises, pain pounds, dryness takes hold. From a BioDecoding perspective, symptoms are simply unspoken emotions expressed through the body.

Everyday Examples

• A British manager hides her flushes in the boardroom, mortified colleagues might notice. Her anxiety fuels the fire – the more she resists, the hotter she feels.

• A woman in rural Japan tends her garden, eats tofu soup, and laughs with friends. She accepts konenki as renewal – her biology mirrors that ease.

• In Nigeria, a grandmother smiles: “Finally, no more bleeding.” Her knees ache, yes, but she feels respected, freer, more herself.

Same biology, different stories.

Humour Helps

Let’s be honest: sometimes you just need to laugh.

• Hot flush in Tesco? Free central heating.

• Night sweats? Cardio without leaving bed.

• Mood swings? Call it your “shapeshifting goddess” phase.

Humour doesn’t erase symptoms, but it makes you an active player rather than a passive victim.

So, What’s the Point?

Menopause isn’t just chemistry. It’s a mirror. It reflects:

• Your emotions – anger, grief, fear, joy.

• Your culture – does it celebrate wisdom or worship youth?

• Your personal freedom – are you trapped in old roles or stepping into new ones?

From a BioDecoding perspective, symptoms are invitations. Listen to them, decode their message, and you can step into menopause not as decline but as initiation.

Final Thought

From a BioDecoding view, menopause isn’t an illness. It’s your body saying: “I’ve carried your roles, your secrets, your compromises. Now I want to carry you.”

Whether it feels like torture or liberation depends not just on hormones but on how you and your culture choose to see it. Biology is the stage. Emotions are the script. Society provides the backdrop. The play can be tragedy, or it can be comedy – and you, at last, get to decide the genre.

Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice. Please consult with a qualified healthcare professional for any health concerns.