Pornography – when the body clicks and the heart yearns

Pornography – a topic that usually causes blushing, nervous giggling or moral lectures. Some pretend that ‘it doesn't concern them’, others treat it as a shameful secret, and still others as a daily ritual before bedtime.

From the perspective of Biodecoding, the matter looks different: pornography is not evidence of depravity or ‘perversion,’ but a trace of the history that someone carries within themselves. And that history usually began long ago – in childhood.

Echoes of childhood

The first example: a likeable husband and father of two children who for years escaped into pornography and prostitution. For his wife – betrayal, shock and pain. For him – shame and tears. And in the background? A childhood spent... literally by his parents' bed, who thought that ‘the little one is asleep anyway’.

Well, he wasn't asleep – or rather, his body was asleep, but his senses were absorbing everything. Biology acted like a recorder, recording his parents' sex as a basic pattern of sensations. In adulthood, when marital routine and the birth of children appeared, his subconscious wanted to return to those intense stimuli. The result? Pornography and prostitutes – not out of a need to betray, but because of an old, unconscious programme.

The second case: a woman who cannot fall asleep without several ‘goodnight’ orgasms, aided by pornographic films. It sounds like a scene from a comedy, but for her it is a drama – fatigue, emptiness and the feeling that ‘something is wrong with me’. Memories? From the age of four, she watched her mother organise ‘social gatherings’ of a rather unusual nature at home. The child was supposed to be asleep, but her brain and body registered everything – right down to the physiological reactions.

It was not a choice – it was a programme that was imprinted on her nervous system.

Victim and witness

Total Biology asks: What difficult situation were you a victim of? and what did you witness in your childhood?

Here we see two sides of the same lesson. Being a victim teaches self-compassion. Being a witness teaches that parents also had their wounds and programmes. The child did not have the tools to understand this, so it recorded not what was ‘right,’ but what it saw and felt.

Pornography as a cry of the soul

From a spiritual perspective, pornography is not really about sex. It is the soul's longing for the intensity of life that was lacking in a safe, healthy form. It is a hunger for closeness, tenderness and acceptance – only served up in plastic packaging. Pornography becomes a substitute for love.

The transgenerational dimension

And now, attention – this is where family history comes in.

Because programmes do not start with us, in many families, sexuality was taboo, shameful, and sometimes even a space of violence. Unspoken traumas – betrayals, rapes, children from unwanted pregnancies – were swept under the carpet.

But the energy of such experiences does not disappear; it travels on to subsequent generations.

That is why a child who ‘accidentally’ witnesses their parents having sex is not in the wrong place at the wrong time – they have come to reveal a story that was hidden in the family.

Symptoms as signposts

In Total Biology, symptoms are not the enemy. They are signals: stop, listen, look deeper. Pornography, instead of being a reason for condemnation, can be... a signpost. It points to the place where the wound lies – individual or familial – and invites us to heal it.

The path to healing

How?

• By going back to the source and realising what really happened.

• By forgiving – your parents, your ancestors, and above all, yourself.

• By choosing a new life instead of endlessly replaying the old programme.

This is the moment when a person ceases to be a victim and becomes... a healer of the family. Because if someone dares to break the vicious circle, they change not only their own fate, but also that of future generations.

Conclusion?

Pornography is not the end of the world, but... the beginning of a story that is finally worth telling. Every ‘strange’ addiction or obsession has a meaning.

And when we dare to look beneath the surface, it turns out that we are not ‘perverts’ but seekers – seekers of love, closeness, and a full life.

And sometimes we just need to understand that behind a porn film lies the film of our lives. And we can rewrite that script. 🎬

Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice. Please consult with a qualified healthcare professional for any health concerns.

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